You Hate Networking?
You Hate Networking?
There’s something about being back in my hometown of Miami that feels like a reset for me. The light, the energy, the familiar faces mixed with new ones… it all reminds me why I’ve always loved building community here.
So it felt especially meaningful that my first event back was with Ocean Drive Magazine and Buccellati in the iconic Casa Tua (yeah, talk about GORGE!). But what really stood out was the magic in the people who went and actually want to connect. These moments always ground me. No matter how many events I attend, there’s still something special about gathering in a room where curiosity and generosity lead the way.
It’s something that reminded me of what some clients tell me time to time when they too get invited to events and may not know a single soul…. they’ll say they get shy at events, feel awkward starting conversations, or debate turning around altogether. And I always remind them that there’s nothingggggg wrong about that feeling. And sure I recognize that being Cuban American I ain’t got no shame in my walking-up-to-you game, but I recognize the terror of stranger danger.
So here are three networking tips I always tell my clients:
1. Give yourself a role (even if it’s invisible)
Instead of thinking “I need to impress people,” try “I’m here to learn one interesting thing.” Curiosity takes the pressure off performance and instantly makes conversations feel more natural. Today I made my goal that I was going to make atleast one new genuine connection (and I made 3!).
2. Arrive early
Okay, this I actually learned from Chriselle Lim. I used to love popping in a little late and thought it was “cool”. NO!
Walking into a packed room can feel brutal. Showing up when things are still settling makes it easier to ease into conversations one-on-one.
3. Remember: Everyone is relieved when someone is kind
Most people are quietly hoping someone will make eye contact, smile, or say hello first. A calm, genuine presence is often the most memorable one in the room. So be the nice one. Be the person who gives a smile and says hello :)
I’ll end with this bc I feel the word “networking” gets a bad rep. Networking to me doesn’t mean collecting contacts and coming in with a motive. I always consider networking as creating an environment where people around me feel seen and heard. Especially considering that that’s what Idalia INC is all about. And I’m genuine about it.
ps: HUGE shout-out to Ronny Kobo for dressing me! I got so many compliments on my top that I’m linking it here xx
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XX Idalia